It made things run smoothly knowing that we were honoring him a way that he would want. They were able to plan his funeral and talked about who would speak, say prayers, the songs, every detail. He unfortunately battled cancer for many years. On the flip side, Josh’s Dad did have those conversations with my mother-in-law before he passed away. It was one of the proudest and most difficult things I have ever done- share the things I loved most about my Dad and the reasons I was lucky to be his daughter. I hope he was proud as I stood up there and spoke to a room full of people whose lives he had touched. We spent the day mostly smiling and laughing (with tears mixed in) and celebrating the amazing man he was. What was Dad’s favorite song? Who would he want to talk? Should the kids talk? In the end, I think he was smiling down on us the entire day. My parents didn’t talk about my Dad’s funeral so we didn’t really know exactly what he wanted. Some who have sadly dealt with death and who came in and just took over- which we needed so badly. Luckily we have a fantastic support system with awesome friends in my hometown. When we were preparing for my Dad’s funeral, there were so many decisions to make. And to Robin from Twigg Botanicals who made the prettiest floral arrangements I have ever seen. Thank you to Heather and Troy from Amorology who put together a beautiful wall for our Dad. And even with the time that they had, there were still some things that didn’t get discussed or figured out before he died. Unfortunately there are many people that don’t get the chance to have those appointments. In that time that he was fighting for his life, my parents met with financial advisors and people who could help them make sure that things were set. I knew it was “his time” to go even if I selfishly hated every moment of knowing. I already knew how much he loved and adored me and he knew the same from me. I’ve said over the last year that I am grateful that my Dad got the diagnosis so we could have heart to hearts and he wasn’t taken suddenly. But I wasn’t sure I could “go there” yet. My project today is a touchy one- an “always prepared binder.” I have known that I wanted to put together this binder for awhile and even talked to my Mom about it. Just shy of eight short months later, he passed away. Our family has had our fair of trials over the years but 2013 took the cake. This time last year we found out that my Dad had cancer.
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